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Merry Christmas to the new parents who don’t feel like themselves,

Merry Christmas to the new parents who don’t feel like themselves, who don’t recognize the person in the mirror, who missed out on sharing their new world with friends and family, but still try their best for their babies. I hope next year is kinder to us. 🖕COVID

Originally posted 2020-12-26 02:34:06.

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NocturnalsRaven
NocturnalsRaven
2 months ago

Merry Christmas to you! In the same boat over here, so I’m with you in spirit.

ccatmarie95
ccatmarie95
2 months ago

You are not alone. I got on antidepressants and it’s helped me manage. This day though, is especially hard. I miss my family so much.

Miss_Sunshine51
Miss_Sunshine51
2 months ago

My son was 1 month old last year and looking back at those pictures this year (omg so tiny!) is just like that was survival Christmas. Obviously, pre-pandemic but still a challenging time.

All I can say is a year from now, it will be totally different baby wise and hopefully pandemic wise. I feel so much hope towards 2021!

ooloistyle
ooloistyle
2 months ago

Oof. This hit me right in the feels. Merry Christmas to you too.

MammothRoutine3210
MammothRoutine3210
2 months ago

I’ve been feeling so down the entire time for Christmas dinner and I didn’t understand why. The entire time I just wanted to cry. I would even get the thought of “Do I even want to be here (living) anymore?” My daughter is 5 months so I don’t think it’s PPD. I kept a happy face around her but it was pretty obvious to my mom, MIL, and husband.

Thank you for posting this. It sucks that you feel this way, but I’m glad I don’t have to feel alone with feeling depressed on Christmas.

BrokenCankle
BrokenCankle
2 months ago

My baby has the same hair style! It’s hilarious and I can’t wait for it to fill out.

thechusma
thechusma
2 months ago

I was fortunate to spend it with my family, but I have a long way too go before feeling like myself again now that I’m a parent of 2. To a BETTER year!

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_Internet_Hugs_
2 months ago

My baby was born on Black Friday 2019. I’m immunocompromised, so I stayed home throughout the winter of 2019-2020 to avoid flu season. Then, just as the weather warmed up… BAM! Lockdown! My poor kid has barely left the house. I’m scared he’s going to be terrified of strangers.

siena_flora
siena_flora
2 months ago

Not recognizing the person in the mirror. That got me. It’s so true. So much weight gain and new problems, and mental exhaustion. I’m running on auto pilot so often these days.

asmartermartyr
asmartermartyr
2 months ago

Can I just say thank you for this post…this is exactly how I feel. Cheers to a much better and brighter 2021!

SunsGa
SunsGa
2 months ago

Hey! Your LO had the same hairdo as mine!

Jokes aside. Yeah this year has sucked being a new parent. But I’m secretly grateful not to have to travel across the country with a 5 month old to see family. Good luck to you guys in the new year!

yumenightfire27
yumenightfire27
2 months ago

I miss my crazy damn near claustrophobic family Christmases. We’d start Christmas eve at one family members house and be 100 miles away Christmas night and we would see every loved one we could along the way.

FUCK COVID.

Kisutra
Kisutra
2 months ago

I feel this right in my chest. We live in a different state than the rest of our family (minus my MIL who is here on our quaranteam temporarily, but will be leaving after Xmas), and my twins are just about 11w and they’ve never met family. Today they’ve been nursing every 2 hours since 5am, which takes a half hour per baby so you can do the math there.

dodsontm
dodsontm
2 months ago

We did a live stream of out 9 month old opening gifts. That worked for us. “Thankfully” both of our families are in a bit of a transition period with our holiday traditions so we didn’t really miss out on anything by doing our own thing.

__eclaire
__eclaire
2 months ago

Merry Christmas to you, hang in there! I’m available to be a virtual mom friend! Message me if you need a friend. I have a two year old 💕

Inferno_Zyrack
Inferno_Zyrack
2 months ago

I feel for you all. Please be on the lookout for post partum symptoms and get the help you need too.

lovelyhappyface
lovelyhappyface
2 months ago

I just accepted that this is the way things are and embraced all the cuddle with my baby . My sister is in my pod so when I went over to see her I almost said you can’t hold him I’m the only one who has hugged bak. This Christmas 🙂

Hugs!!

DickinMoby
DickinMoby
2 months ago

Merry Christmas to you too. Trying my best not to cry too much, hoping for a better year ahead 🙂

laurensvo
laurensvo
2 months ago

Thank you, and Merry Christmas to you, too. 💗

Mrsfig09
Mrsfig09
2 months ago

Solidarity to you fellow internet mom.

Cleanclock
Cleanclock
2 months ago

Same to you. Hope you’re doing okay. My family has never met my daughter yet, and she turned 1y on thanksgiving. Covid has taken a lot from us.

dobbysoldsock
dobbysoldsock
2 months ago

Here’s the plus side- you’ve got great eyebrows

megrox754
megrox754
2 months ago

I just feelr fucking defeated this year like I can’t make anyone happy. No matter what I do. I put my kids first, my husband suffers; I put my husband first, I have mom guilt. How do some of you balance it all? I feel like I always sacrifice my needs and self care and end up empty with no one happy. Going through having a baby during a pandemic where I can’t get help from the outside is killing us. Sorry to vent so hard. I can’t talk to any about this without feeling stupidly sorry for myself.

SunnySideUp7
SunnySideUp7
2 months ago

Yes! Merry Christmas to the mamas that can’t join in the fun because they’re feeding the baby. Or who are spending their time taking care of everyone else and not themselves. You are all amazing!

mpr1011
mpr1011
2 months ago

Who blamed their hormones for ruining Christmas? I did. My husband said “two weeks post partum wasn’t an excuse to lose my shit and then cry.” To be fair, my two year old whipped at toy she didn’t like at my four year old and I was over the meltdowns. I even tried leaving the room to take a moment but then I ugly cried.

CremeDeLaMeredith
CremeDeLaMeredith
2 months ago

2020 can— I cannot stress this enough— fuck off.

ponytoaster
ponytoaster
2 months ago

One of my friends is in this list and I feel so much for them. They struggled to conceive for almost a decade and their first was born a week into national lockdowns in March. They haven’t really been able to get out and show off their kid to the world as much as they should be able too.

Plus all the classes that aren’t taking place is causing children and parents to miss out on so much.

HauntedinAutumn
HauntedinAutumn
2 months ago

My kiddo is one, her first birthday was just us and a cake. We haven’t seen anyone in ten months, literally. We got covid early in and her father is a truck driver still working so we haven’t physically seen him in months. I was upset at stuff but reality is, that’s because I want our real lives back. Kiddo has no clue her first birthday should have been so much more, same with Christmas and Halloween.

She had fun at all these events/holidays with just us. So when we can gather it will be an extra surprise and she’s not upset at how it is, I am.

I say fuck covid and she’s happy with a box a toy came in! 🤷‍♀️

didnotimprovethecake
didnotimprovethecake
2 months ago

Ugh me and the stretch marks/extra 60 pounds/deep PPD feel this so deeply.

zevelaceade
zevelaceade
2 months ago

😭 Screw this year, honestly. Feeling lonely on Christmas with just my new baby and husband. I miss the rest of my family.

IamNOTa_cantaloupe
IamNOTa_cantaloupe
2 months ago

Hanging out on the couch with my baby who won’t sleep longer than 20 minutes at a time. Feel like I’ve been here for two months straight. I feel so lonely.

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