Husband let me daughter open her xmas present…wtf?!

  • Husband let me daughter open her xmas present…wtf?!

    Breaking Moms - 2021 GoldWonderful5745 updated 3 weeks ago 2 Members · 2 Posts
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    FinalFeeling

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    November 7, 2021 at 7:21 am

    >it wasn’t worth apologizing to you sincerely because you wouldn’t accept my apology anyway

    Well, he’s acting like a POS. Why would you ever forgive him if that’s his attitude? He’s not actually apologetic.

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    Escoutas

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    November 7, 2021 at 7:21 am

    It isn’t about Christmas, it is about a lack of consideration. He didn’t think it through. He didn’t think about you. He didn’t think about safety. Yes, your daughter will forget and be just as excited when she opens it for the second time, but that isn’t the point.

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    HogwartsKitchenWitch

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    November 7, 2021 at 7:21 am

    He doesn’t understand the concept of opening gifts on a holiday? Please. What a load of BS. Ask him if he’s going to let her open her birthday presents 2 months early, or if he’ll be buying her Halloween candy in July.

    Much like with her first haircut, he wanted to do it for him. Because now he’s fun, generous daddy who gave her the bike. He’s not confused, he’s selfish.

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    sotonightimightdream

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    November 7, 2021 at 7:21 am

    i mean it wasn’t really his gift to give no matter what it was for.. what he did wasn’t respectful to anyone involved

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    GoldWonderful5745

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    November 7, 2021 at 7:22 am

    Idk if I’m overreacting, kinda hope I am, but I need to vent. My husband and I aren’t religious nor particularly big Christmas people, but I come from a family where it is celebrated and he does not. My parents, who we will be celebrating Xmas with, wanted to get our daughter (20 mo) a bike. They wanted us to choose it so they could ship it directly to us. I put a huge amount of time and energy into finding the perfect bike and making sure we had it well before xmas. I told my husband I was ordering ahead for xmas and asked if he had any input, but he didn’t really – he did choose the color from the two I narrowed it down to.

    The bike arrived today after a number of shipping mishaps that I had to deal with partially because he is often slow to answer our doorbell when it rings, so we had been talking about “the present” and “the bike” coming for the past week, in those words.

    Today I was upstairs working when I suddenly heard “let’s take the bike outside!.” He had opened and assembled the bike and they were going outside to play with it! I told him it was an xmas present from my parents meant to be opened on xmas or at least when they came, and he apologized. I said “it’s ok,” but was still incredibly stressed not bc I was mad at him – mistakes are mistakes – but bc I was feeling so incredibly heartbroken knowing I would have to take it away from my daughter, who had already seen it and was so excited.

    So my husband then doubles back, saying “it’s not my fault I don’t understand your Christian crap.” Now I’m mad. Even if I/my parents didn’t care about opening it on xmas, her first bike was a big deal for me and I would have wanted to be there to see her open it. Plus, we hadn’t even gotten a helmet yet, so I’m upset that he was going to let her ride it without at least considering safety.

    His story is still “I’m sorry, BUT…,” and/or “it wasn’t worth apologizing to you sincerely because you wouldn’t accept my apology anyway.” Like, wtf? It’s not about Christmas; it’s about him expecting that I put in all the effort while he has all the fun. Just like the time he “randomly” decided to give baby her first haircut without asking or telling me…I know a baby/toddler doesn’t care about a haircut and will forget a bike by xmas, but I want to be there for those special moments, especially when COVID hasn’t afforded us many, and I guess that’s selfish?

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