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  • BallofEnvy

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    October 15, 2021 at 12:03 pm

    My son did the same thing to us. We wanted 2-3 kids but his behavior was (and still is, to be honest) so awful that it really put me off on the idea of more children.

    He was diagnosed at 8 with adhd and odd, at 10 with mild autism. I love him but raising him has sucked all the joy out of my life.

    Think of it this way, you could have another kid just like him, or god forbid – even worse. And let’s say you lucked out and your next kid is an angel – their needs will always be on the back burner because of all the attention older brother needs, making the good kid grow resentful. Then you have a good kid that wants nothing to do with you and a shitty kid that sucks up all your energy.

    Maybe I’m a pessimist but I just don’t see anything good with adding in another. More kids doesn’t fix anything.