heavncenttGuestOctober 21, 2021 at 9:40 am
Wow. So, first thing, you husband needs to back the fuck away from this situation. He is her boss. He needs to associate with her in a professional manner at all times, trust me on this! He can not be answering texts at all hours and discussing her personal life. There needs to be clear boundaries.
Second, yes, you have the right mindset. She sounds like a trainwreck and encouraging a friendship or helping her will only invite that drama and constant need into your family.
You mentioned that she has had her own friends and family trying to help her for 7 years. I think it is time for you and your husband to slowly, but kindly, back away and start steering her towards her family for help. If she is truly in a bad relationship, she needs family help to get out and improve her life.