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8 Assumptions That Can Be Harmful To New Moms

Ooooh the assumptions of motherhood!

🤯When we talk about the assumptions of motherhood, what we are really referring to are the unrealistic expectations and information that moms are often provided.

😔These add to the feelings of shame, guilt, and thoughts of not measuring up as mama.

What assumptions would you add?! Let us know ⬇️

@mamapsychologists

Originally posted 2021-01-11 12:49:47.

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itsmylife_2007
itsmylife_2007
1 month ago

I feel seen… thank you 😢

mariam__forever
mariam__forever
1 month ago

Each one of those assumptions are SPOT on!

midwifelauretta
midwifelauretta
1 month ago

Love this 👌🏻

shania.raine.styles
shania.raine.styles
1 month ago

My problem is that I don’t believe any of this to be true at all.. I wish I could see things more positively like this 😂

shmindz28
shmindz28
1 month ago

Someone actually told me if I didn’t go to Target on my own with the baby within the first two weeks post partum then there was something wrong with me 🤦🏼‍♀️

gubirthtribe
gubirthtribe
1 month ago

Yes! 💕

arisewomensinstitute
arisewomensinstitute
1 month ago

These are great! 💜 there are so many unrealistic expectations when it comes to fertility, pregnancy, childbirth, and even parenting.

fevera_dreams_art
fevera_dreams_art
1 month ago

Not every mother can or even wants to breastfeed

zaracapricon
zaracapricon
1 month ago

If you do c section than you will have back pain for rest of your life 🤷‍♀️

serephinadoula
serephinadoula
1 month ago

When you breastfeed your weight will come right off and you’ll know exactly what your baby needs all of the time because you’re the mom

thejourneyofwife
thejourneyofwife
1 month ago

Assumption: the work of taking care of the baby falls on the mom and any help she is given is a “favor”

nl3018
nl3018
1 month ago

Another assumption I thought was that my baby’s father would help me out. Even after being together for 14 years, he’s only around me and our baby for about a half hour a day and as soon as baby starts crying he says he can’t handle it and leaves. He has never helped me with night feeding. I can’t believe I was stupid enough to think he would be there to help. He treats me like crap more than ever. And I actually thought he would be there for me when I go to work. Omg I’m so stressed because I go back to work in 4 months and I’m 9 years into my career and I can’t depend on him to look after him. Even though he promised me he would. Goes to show like my grandma always told me, never trust a man!!!

lareiina__
lareiina__
1 month ago

Off topic, but is it normal to find your mom annoying during pregnancy? She came to visit today and immediately called me fat the moment she walked in when there were also other people there. I feel like everything is say or do she knows better. Is it just me because I feel like shit now and been crying since she left

annacusackpostpartum
annacusackpostpartum
1 month ago

Oh yep. Been digging into all these as I write my book. The myths that keep us chained, right?!

crisrodenatorlynne
crisrodenatorlynne
1 month ago

The amount of times I’ve heard the advice “if you breastfeed you’re going to lose all the baby weight and then some”

sarisha1988
sarisha1988
1 month ago

Add remaining awake during breast feeding. This is hard to do because you automatically feel sleepy. 😭

drbetseypt
drbetseypt
1 month ago

Yes! I would include “breastfeeding will help the weight melt off” and “you can (and should) return to normal exercise at 6 weeks postpartum.” These are misconceptions I try to help my patients with. LOVE the support you are giving mamas ❤️

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